Thursday, March 26, 2009

Child Abduction and Sexual Assaults

Every day children in this country are abducted and or sexually assaulted. Isn’t it about time that we as parents stop this from happening? We put our children in the position of getting abducted and or sexually assaulted because we do not know who are children are around and or who our children are talking to whether it is on the phone and or on the computer. I feel that there is no good reason for this now a days. We as parents have too many tools at our hands to find out what our children are doing, who they are talking on the phone to, and who they are chatting on the internet to. Parents do not be afraid to check into who your children are around and talking to. The only what that we can push for the abductions and sexual assaults to stop is by knowing. Do not be afraid to call your local police department and let them know that there is a strange car driving around and you would like them to check it out. Do not be afraid to go on the internet and run a background check on your neighbor. Do not be afraid to do a reverse search on that phone number that your child just had called them. Do not be afraid to check and see who your children are chatting with online. These are all things that we as parents can do to stop the abductions and sexual assaults that are happening everyday in this country. We as parents, grandparents, and even normal people need to check this stuff out on a regular basses. It is our job as humans to protect the children of this country and I think it is our entire job to do so. Stand up America and protect our children.

Take Part in Your Surroundings

Today it is hard to know what our children are doing every minute of the day. So we have to resort to our computers to help protect our children. Abductions and Sexual assaults on minors are getting to be a big part of our everyday life. So we ask our self what we can do as parents to help protect our children from this happening to them. The first thing is to get to know or neighbors so that we know what type of people are living around us. Do not be afraid to go on to the computer and do a back ground check on a neighbor or even a relative. Yes I say relative even though we think we know our family we have to ask our self’s do we really. What was Uncle John doing that 2 months no one could get a hold of him? These are the things that as parents we should be asking our self’s every day. Then we need to ask who our child is talking to on the phone. Do not be afraid to do a reverse phone check on the phone calls your children get. Do you really think that they are going to tell you the truth all the time? There are programs that you can get on the computer to do reverse phone searches even on a cell phone. These searches will give you a name and address of who your children are talking to. Check these people out they are the people that your children are hanging out with. Knowing who we are living around and what kind of people our children our hanging out with is the only way we as parents can keep track of our children now a days. No matter how much we think we know someone we do not really know everything about them. Keep in mind that most abductions and Sexual assaults happen from people our children and we parents know. You can find out more on how to protect our children at the following sites.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Let’s Start Protecting Our Children

With the growing child abduction that is going on it today does life, we the people are more and more have to take things into our own hand when it comes to protecting our children. Although we do not what to keep our children lock in the house at all times we still have a hard time letting them leave our eye site. So as adults what do we need to do to keep our children from being abducted and or sexually assaulted. We have to start taking a few things into our own hand, and no I do not mean that we need to be doing the police officers job. But we do need to take a few things into our own hands to better protect our children and grandchildren. So you ask how we can do this. There are several things on the market today that can help us to protect the people that we love. You can purchase programs for your computer that will allow you to type in someone’s name and do a back ground check on them. These although you think may cost a lot of money in reality do not cost much at all. There are also sites that you can pay a monthly fee to and be able to do the same thing at. This will allow you to see if someone living around you is a sex offender or not. You can also purchase device that looks like a watch that you can put on your child’s arm. Then go online and actually see where your child is. These items are a way for us as parents to be able to see where are children are and what people live in our local neighborhoods. As I always say know what your children are doing, who your children are playing with, and what type of people are living in our neborhoods. Another thing to always remember is if you do see a strange person in your neighborhood or a strange car driving around get as much information about the car or person as you can then call your local police and let them knows what is going on. Most people do not realize that it is the police officers job to come out and check out all call and if it turns out to be nothing at all there is anything that they can do to you as long as you do not call 911. Always remember 911 are for emergencies only. So write down your local police office number and use it.
A Generation ago Parents were very powerful figures, they knew everything about their child or Teen, but that has changed. Today's Parents can feel completely powerless and even more frustrating, feel that they know very little about their child. Today's children often treat what Parents say with contempt, the Parents word is often no longer adhered to and of no consequence.
The guidance once given to children by their Parents, has now been replaced by what their friends think, advice on relationships is something they discuss with each other and what they can gather online. The relationship between child and parent has changed in many ways, but some of the things they need have not changed.
Your Child or Teen will go to extreme lengths to tell you that they do not need your help, they may tell you to "butt out" and "it's my life", but contrary to the bravado, they still need their Parents help to get through what is becoming even more challenging than it was for our generation, reaching Adulthood. As Parents we have to remember that Teens struggle with their identity, they are at an awkward age stuck between Childhood and becoming a grown up, it is frustrating for them. Their frustration can often make them seem like an alien to us, we must learn to see through the behaviours and think what could be bothering them.
Guessing or presuming we know what is on their minds is not enough, we need to ask. This is critical, choosing the wrong moment will never work out. As Parents we need to create the the environment and space which will enable them to open up and talk. It's no use trying to talk to them when they are on their way out of the door or they are in a mood. Choosing our moment has to appear to be spontaneous, but has to have been well orchestrated in order to get the right result.
The greatest skill a parent needs is the ability to Listen, Parenting is deeply rooted in telling and giving out instructions, that notion is somewhat outdated. Listening will make you appear approachable and help your Teen to see you as an adversary instead of someone who is always telling them what to do. If you go about it in the right way and you can alter their perception of you, you will create a much more effective parent/child relationship.
Remember changing how your Child or Teen perceives you may take some time, so be realistic, this is a project and cannot be done overnight. Say less and Listen more.
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